Grow up and know the right time to be Parent,,,

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 Yesterday i was talking to my sister about this quote by great Rumi which  I have shared on whatsapp status. This discussion leads us to a very important topic which is almost taboo in some asian countries like pakistan and india specially. Parents don't tell this at the time of marriage and always remains in hurry to have grand children .The topic was about the right time to have a child after marriage.Here i will state what is right according to my thoughts not what the society thinks.. Actually when a marriage is failed the kids suffer the most and their misery change their whole life. So when you get marry first you should not think about having a baby for at least first 2 or 3 years. I agree kids bound husband and wife more strongly  and they are a blessing but if the marriage is falling apart the kids have most traumatic and painful period of life.  


The starting time of the marriage is very important as you slowly know the person you have married, their life style, values,habits, thoughts ,behaviour,beliefs and most importantly your compatibility .Whether you two both can spend the life time together or not.? Gradually you will learn many things about marriage, responsibilities , compromises and many more things your mind will grow and You will learn things which you cannot understand without experience.Conclusion is that you  should think from all aspects  before having a baby.


You are a woman or a man doesn't matter your whole life is about to become a dark suffocated room without a  hope or a ray of light, if you have decided to  sacrifice and stay in the relation. You will satisfy yourself by saying that i have done a sacrifice for my kid but believe me its not gonna give you any peace.
The conclusion of this all debate is that when you get marry don't rush for the baby.Give yourselves some time to understand each other ,to love each other .Spend time with your partner and cherish the starting years of marriage then if you consider that all is well and will remain well always hopefully then be a parent . So neither your or your kid have to suffer in your divorce or in your unhappy marriage.





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